Marcia Wieder, America’s Dream Coach just sent out her monthly Dreamzine and I was pleasantly surprised to hear the revelation she had while on a very recent Vision Quest, which gave her great insight to achieving peace. Even though the article is not relevant to Infertility per se, its message is still powerful, and very pertinent to our journey! I encourage you to read it! Just click the link to my www.keystoclaritycoach.wordpress.com and you will get the full story there! Enjoy! (sit down and have a cup of tea!)
When embarking on the infertility journey, the maze of emotions we move through can be mind-blowing. Anger, bitterness, resentment are some, as well as the old regulars.. sadness, trepidation, grief, elation, expectation and hope.
I have noticed how many women, have such high expectations of themselves, their bodies, the ability to function ‘as only a woman should’. And if they don’t , thinking of themselves as failures to themselves, their spouses, and the world. I know – I’ve been there.
Some of the most profound and liberating work I have done, has been forgiving myself. As you would have heartfelt compassion ( knowing that you would not wish this on your worst enemy) how about shining thatlight of compassion on yourself. Acknowledge that you have or are doing the best that you can do, in that moment. That you don’t have control over the outcome. We women, do try a lot to be ‘perfect’ at everything we do. If the universe, source or God was looking at you now, he would see someone perfect in his eyes, with all your talents and all your flaws. That is perfection. Know that it is okay to be yourself as you are. Acknowledge your sadness, your anger, and frustration, particularly when they are aimed at yourself. Allow those emotions to surface, … and then let them pass. Say to yourself, from your heart, that you forgive yourself – first of all for being so hard on yourself, and secondly for having such high expectations of ourselves, and of course if you have anything else to forgive yourself for. Spend some time nurturing yourself, and reminding yourself of the gifts you bring to this world.